Our Secret Marriage in a Temple

I remember so vividly sitting on the London underground on the first night I met my husband. I looked at him and thought ‘this is my husband’. Somehow, I already felt like his wife even though only a couple of hours had passed since we first met in person. I have heard people say that marriages are sometimes made in heaven, this certainly felt like it. The second time we saw each other, we didn’t want to wait any longer. I had just arrived in India for the first time and we wanted to get married as soon as possible. So, we did, without telling anyone.

There is a small town a couple of hours outside Nagpur, there stands a temple, a temple built by one of my husband’s ancestors. He told me of his fond childhood memories of eating sweets, running around and playing hide and seek with his cousins there.

This is where we had our Gandharva marriage.

There are a few types of Hindu marriages and a Gandharva marriage is a love marriage. The girl and boy get married without the knowledge of their parents. The only condition of this marriage is mutual love. The ceremony is simple, the exchange of garlands made of flowers and application of a red powder called sindoor by the groom to the top of the brides forehead. There is no need for witnesses other than God himself.

Before going to the temple, we bought two marigold garlands, a small pot of sindoor and sweets to offer to God (prasad). The men sitting on the side of the road, selling their marigolds, must have known exactly what we were up to. I smiled as the elderly man, threading the marigold blossoms together, looked at me suspiciously.

On the day we got married, the sun was hot, heavy, the air humid, but as soon as I ducked my head to climb into the small entrance of the stone temple, the air became cool. The atmosphere calm. We washed our feet and made our way towards the inner sanctum, I had never been inside a Hindu temple before.

We exchanged our garlands and became husband and wife (once again?). My Husband applied sindoor to my forehead and we both broke into a smile.”We are married”, we said in unison. It was so beautiful and simply perfect. The stillness of the temple, the tranquility of my soul made me never want to leave that beautiful place. We sat there for a while, holding hands. When we had to leave, we gave the sweets we had offered to God to children playing in the temple, chasing each other and hiding behind the ornately carved stone pillars.


How did people react when they found out a couple of months later? The majority were surprised but very happy for us. My Indian family were eager to make it public by also arranging a big Indian wedding. My mum was annoyed I hadn’t let her in on the secret first, but thought it was extremely romantic.


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  1. Super romantic! I had no idea there was a ceremony especially for love marriages. In this modern age many people (mainly western people but now even some of my Indian friends) ask me what place marriage has in modern society. Some are disillusioned because they have seen many marriages fail, often that of their own parents. Some think it old fashioned in this age of civil partnerships. Many people have become atheist and see marriage as a religious thing only and therefore not relevant to them.
    I hope your story can give inspiration and hope to those who have lost faith in this promise between man and women – romance is most certainly not dead! x


  2. Wow! I mean wow!! And I think to myself, shouldn’t marriages be like this? Where you make a concious decision to belong to each other before the universe and a greater god. And if it feels right then, nothing can shake that foundation. I think we make so much out of the ceremonies that we forget the moment. And as I read this, it made me realise how special this moment will always remain to both of you. Stay, always. God Bless.


  3. That is extremely romantic! There’s something so pure about a wedding in a temple, especially an ancient temple. Sometimes the romance is diluted in huge Indian weddings with all the tiring ceremony and hundreds of guests. I’m sure it was lovely to have something just for yourselves 🙂


  4. Such a beautiful story. Before reading your blog, I also did not know this type of marriage existed. Do you ever go back to visit that temple? If so, next time you should take some photos, at least of the outside 😉


  5. Oops, that “I agree 100%” was meant for anenglishwomaninmumbai…hehehe it looks like I was just agreeing with myself!


  6. @Lauren

    The marriage seems to be a scene from the old bollywood movie. In old bollywood movies, boy and girl, fell in love and married secretly in this fashion followed by dramatic music in the background.


  7. Lauren! So overwhelmed with your journey of life.Its so beautiful to see everything that is going peacefully and I hope God always keep pouring blessings on you and your family.Never thought that two wonderful cultures met this way and you are following are rituals and culture,its great to see.Who said love has barrier? You proved that love is not about two people but also between two culture. I love reading your blogs and hope to see you soon on YouTube as vlogger.Please share with us your life moments with videos on YouTube, we will surely enjoy.Keep the good things coming!!!
    Lots of love from Goa,India.


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